How to have a healthy relationship with food

We all have a relationship with food. Everyone needs to eat but how is your relationship with food?

For a long time, I thought my nutrition had to be perfect. I tried meal plans, I tried tracking my macros, I tried eating vegan… but what I didn’t realize is how it affected my relationship with food. If you are happy with being strict around food, I wouldn’t recommend reading this article but if you feel like you don’t know what to do, read on.

Have you ever felt bad after stepping on the scale? Have you ever calculated the calories of your meal before eating it? Have you ever told yourself you had to start eating healthier but then the next day, you’re eating fast-food again? Same.

Everyone has a relationship with food. We all need to eat. I sometimes tell myself that I need to be slim to be successful. Sometimes I think no one will follow me if I don’t have a big booty and visible abs.

It’s so hard to know what you should be eating. Everyone feels different about what they are eating. We all have a voice inside our heads. For some people, it tells you what you should be eating, that you are not good enough, that you should be eating differently… The best thing you can do is realize the voice is there and separate it from what you really want. If you consistently make small changes, you will be able to improve so much.

How can the scales tell you something about your health? How can your appearance show you how you feel on the inside? You can enjoy that ice cream or donut. Everything in moderation is what life should be about. If you respect your body enough, you can have a variety of foods every single day.

The people that allow themselves to eat, have a way better relationship with food and are way healthier. If you restrict yourself from eating one certain food, you will be craving it so much more. Eventually, you will give in and you will feel guilty. It doesn’t have to be that way. You shouldn’t restrict yourself. You need to find a balance that works for you and that’s not same as what works for me or for your friend or for your boyfriend… It’s not about how you feel days or weeks after changing your habits. It’s about how you feel months or years later.

Try to go back to the basics:

  1. Respect your body. If you do and you realize how amazing it is, it will treat you well in return.
  2. Listen to your body’s voice and not the voice in your head telling you all the things you shouldn’t do.
  3. Think about food as fuel. It’s for everyone, not just for people who work out every day.
  4. Drink enough water!
  5. Allow your body to rest. Sleep is overlooked so frequently.
  6. Everything is there to be enjoyed in moderation.
  7. Unlearn everything you thought you knew and go back to the basics.

We can make a difference and we can break the ‘being strict around food’ culture. Food is something to be seen as a positive aspect of life. It’s there to make your body AND mind happy.

How is your relationship with food? Comment below!

This article was strongly inspired by a TED talk by Rhiannon Lambert. If you want to see it, click here.



4 thoughts on “How to have a healthy relationship with food

  1. Johnny Tenison says:

    This is a really helpful post, thank you. I was diagnosed with Celiac disease this year and it has meant my appetite has increased ten fold. But it is something I am not used to and it means I am just eating loads, some good stuff, some bad stuff, with no real control. I’ve put on weight, which is good… but I need to be careful that it’s good weight and that I do enough exercise etc. Advice like yours is really useful.


    • Jana Six says:

      I am so happy I was able to help you! I’ve gained some weight too and I am now trying to lose some without hating my body or myself and still listening to my cravings 😊 sometimes it’s hard to find a good balance between physical and mental health!


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